A lot of self-help books focus on setting goals, but then when those goals aren't met everything falls apart. What I've learned recently is that we should focus on the process - Taking those steps day by day is progress and that is something we should celebrate and value in itself.
The process is the goal.
Formalized this into a blog article, seemed relevant given New Years Resolutions are coming up!
https://www.jerry.wtf/posts/the-process-is-the-goal/